Shamanism: a spiritual trap or the key to awakening? Kasia Nast

She explains that this protocol comes from tantra and serves to build safety and clarity. She notes that many people have sex without knowing if the other person is in a relationship or has been tested. She says she will not enter intimacy without going through RBDSM. She emphasizes that it's not about killing spontaneity, but about building trust. She also mentions that aftercare is crucial, and shares a story when a partner asked for a check-in the next day, which deepened their bond.

She contrasts this with 'having sex,' which she defines as quick, genital-focused, and learned from porn. She says this ritual begins long before the bedroom and is about connecting souls. She emphasizes that a woman needs 20–40 minutes of stimulation to be ready, and men should not assume readiness. She describes how she sometimes blindfolds her partner and reads a story to engage other senses. She says that through this practice she experiences full-body orgasms, next to which clitoral orgasm seems trivial.

She says she wakes up every day in a great mood, as if opening a new chapter. She consciously closes old chapters, seeing difficult events as lessons. She notes that her ex-partner observed that she never wakes up in a bad mood. This practice is part of her overall philosophy of choosing how to perceive situations.

She defines spirituality as the way you respond to the world. She gives examples: a woman yelling at her in a club queue – she responded with empathy, and the woman cried in her arms. She says she is grateful for triggers because they show what still needs healing. She also applies this to online hate: she blocks, but if she enters into dialogue, she tries to hear the other person's pain.

She says she hasn't watched TV for 20 years, doesn't read gossip portals, and blocks anyone who writes 'you stupid whore.' She notes that her private messages on Instagram are overwhelmingly positive because she takes care of her field. She believes that what you focus on grows, so she focuses on love and inspiration.

She learned this from her tantra teacher. She says many couples stop having sex because they don't communicate about touch. She emphasizes that this simple question can transform intimacy.

She explains that many people block sound due to early experiences of needing to be quiet during sex. She says that in tantra, breath, sound, and movement are the three pillars. By opening them, you unlock full-body orgasm. She led a workshop for 70 women, dressed in white, experiencing full-body orgasm in a sacred, non-sexualized way. She says for men it is possible if they can let go of mind control and connect with breath and sound, but it requires deeper work on early conditioning (e.g., being silenced).

She describes how at age 39 she got a 5-month job offer in Bali. She could have stayed in her safe, successful life as an architect, but inside she was suffering. She chose to leave everything, sell her possessions, and go with two suitcases, trusting the universe. The pandemic broke out and she stayed, undergoing a deep transformation. She says that if you surrender 99%, you are still holding onto 1% safety, and that is not true surrender.

She explains that although psychedelics accelerated her path, she now believes that the same states can be reached through meditation, breathwork, and nature. She cites a conversation with tantra teacher Mananda Sarita, who stated that shamanism relies on external medicine, while tantra uses internal medicine – breath, sound, and movement. Kasia says she now experiences cosmic states exclusively through intimacy, which was previously only possible after substances. She emphasizes that if she ever feels a calling to sit with medicine again, she will do it, but now she has no such need. She notes that people often suspect her of being under the influence of drugs when they see her joy for life, while she is completely sober.

She describes her current practice: she creates a space in the living room with flowers, incense, calm music. She brews 20-year-old tea. They sit opposite each other, clothed, and talk about their fears, needs, desires. They breathe together, maintain eye contact. They do periodic check-ins on whether it is still pleasurable. She emphasizes that a woman needs 20–40 minutes of stimulation to be ready, and she will not allow penetration until her body is ready. Sometimes she blindfolds her partner and reads him a story, engaging other senses. She says this approach leads to full-body orgasms lasting hours, next to which clitoral orgasm seems like 7 seconds of pleasure.

She explains that she needed that period to build the 'I don't give a fuck' muscle. Now, after deep inner work, she doesn't need external validation. She compares it to transitioning from goddess energy to queen energy: a queen doesn't need to prove anything. She wears simple, natural fabrics without patterns. She says this reflects her inner simplification.

She explains that she is a 'devotion' person – if she had a child, all her energy would go into it, she would stop being a woman and become solely a mother. She couldn't then serve the thousands of women she helps. She also opposes the belief that a woman without a husband and child is not a real woman. She says she has strong maternal energy but no physical need to be a mother. She made the decision consciously around age 39 and feels no discomfort about it.

She says that if she gets a treatment now, it is not from a lack of self-love, but because she wants to – just as she may dye her hair or not. She criticizes the culture where women lie about having had treatments, considering it another taboo to break. She emphasizes that being on a spiritual path doesn't mean you have to grow out your leg hair and have totally long gray hair – it's about conscious choice. She says she lives in Bali, where the sun dries the skin, so she uses moisturizing treatments and that's okay.